It is true when they say that time waits for no man and as such 'time is money'. It is 4am and I lie in bed, hoping to fall asleep again. Sadly I tossed and turned until such time that my mind went on a journey. As much as I tried to divert the mind to focusing on getting back my two hours of sleep, it chose to direct me to questions that have bugged me for days.
It is truly amazing how quickly time goes by. It feels like it was just yesterday when we wished each other 'happy new year' and discussed our hopes and dreams for the 2013. It seems like it was just yesterday when we excitedly noted our New Year's resolutions, committing ourselves to achieving them against all odds. Yes, we were all motivated to pursue our dreams, to improve our attitudes, go to the gym more often, make the climb up the corporate ladder or save that amount of money we were so keen to save. But how many of us are actually doing what we said we would do?
Strategy experts often talk about reviewing progress. Reviewing progress is about taking a moment to reassess if you are still on the right track. It is about comparing what you initially set out to achieve against what you are actually achieving and should there be discrepancies, then corrective action should be taken. It against this background that I pose this question again,. How many of us are actually pursuing the resolutions we've set ourselves in January ? And for those who are actively pursuing them, how well are you doing?
Our weakness as human beings is our inability to see things through. We are happy to commit ourselves to doing something. We then start it but along the way we completely abandon it. Why is that? Now it would be unfair of me to challenge you and not be held accountable myself. So yes the question about how well I'm doing in pursuing the goals I've set myself in January is also applicable.
The beginning of 2013 saw me committing myself to 5 goals. And like anyone, I was motivated to achieve all of them. With lots of discipline and commitment I continue to hold myself accountable to achieving them. I review my progress on a monthly basis to ensure that I take one step closer towards my goals and in cases where I need to adjust my goals, I take corrective action , implement and incorporate the changes into my initial goals. However, it is not as easy as I make it seem.
The pursuit of goals requires motivation and dedication . It takes a disciplined person to sustain the drive and commitment towards achieving their goals. It takes guts and resilience to believe in your goals when things don't go as you had hoped. Achieving goals is about marching on even when you feel tired and ready to quit.
With 6months of the year gone , it is important that we reassess how well we are doing in terms of achieving our goals. It is important that ask the hard questions and be brutally honest with ourselves. Are you living up to the standard you've set yourself? Are you doing the things you committed yourself to doing in order to move up the corporate ladder? Have you changed your negative attitude like you said you would? Are you saving money like you said you would? Are you committed to going to gym like you said?
It is easy to fall short of the commitments we set ourselves. It is easy to give up and walk away. However, I urge you to stay strong. I urge you to soldier on and continue pursuing your goals. I encourage you to take it one step at a time and to continually reassess your progress. The pursuit of goals is a tough journey, but it's not impossible.
Take the time to evaluate how far you've come and be proud of your achievements thus far. Waste no time being mediocre but investing in building up momentum towards December;when you can really look back and be proud.
To smile brings you happiness. To laugh makes you feel better. To live makes life worthwhile.
Friday 28 June 2013
Sunday 23 June 2013
REINVENT YOURSELF
I've often been reminded that when life serves you lemons, then you ought to make lemonade. This has served as a tool of finding the brighter side in what appeared a raw deal, or when life really seemed unfair. More often than not, it seemed easy enough to say it, when in actual fact it was harder to implement; especially when it felt like everything was spiraling out of control.
We often carry with us baggage we collect along the way; baggage from our failed relationships, baggage from our hostile working conditions and some we find ourselves carrying unnecessarily. The burden of the baggage we carry daily presents itself in multiple ways, that in turn manifests in unimaginable ways.
I have carried baggage over the last few months, the kind of baggage that was starting to poison my soul. Baggage that blinded me of opportunities I could pursue. I carried baggage that weighed me down and made me doubt my potential. Not only was my potential undermined, but my worth too. I allowed the baggage I carried to dictate how people treated me. I allowed this baggage to define how I saw myself and value my potential. I allowed myself to be the victim, constantly seeking approval from those I deemed superior.
In moments of doubt, I would look to others for acknowledgement and depend on their interpretations of my situation because I thought they knew best; when in fact they didn't. I tried, many a time to express how I felt in hope that they would understand what I was going through, hoping to also prove to myself that I wasn't insane to feel what I felt. I allowed this baggage to manifest itself in my life for months, to destroy me inside and then allow myself to put on a mask, portraying a picture perfect life.
It was on Friday evening when God sent down my guardian angel to remind me that I was worth more than I imagined, to tell me my feelings were not unjustified. He sent down this angel clothed in normal clothes, with a beautiful smile and an understanding heart. She told me I was not mad to feel the way I did, she held my hand and told me to be the best person God intended me to be. She smiled and told me I was perfect in God's eyes.
I listened carefully and took note of the words this angel spoke. She had no wings or a halo like angels, but she carried a message that gave me hope. She delivered a message that allowed me to take another look in the mirror to see and understand my worth. It was at this point that I saw my potential unfold and my worth materialise; not because I'm arrogate, but because I started to believe in myself again.
There are many young people carrying baggage in there lives. We seek approval from our supervisors at work to validate our worth. We allow their perceptions of us dictate how we value ourselves. Some young people allow bitter relationships determine how their lives turn out, we fail to cut ties with people that poison our lives.
I have seen a lot of pain, frustration in the lives of young people and my own life. But I have learnt that God provides us with guardian angels that will remind us of our worth. We are all blessed with the opportunity of meeting someone that will hold our hands and reassure us it be okay. Take note, listen and reinvent yourself.
As a new week starts, I have made a conscious decision. I choose to let go of the baggage that poisoned my life. I choose to have self confidence, to value my worth and to pursue opportunities. Allowing other people's perceptions dictate my career or personal life ends now. I am a brand and I acknowledge myself as one. I encourage you to do the same, because you are worth more than you thought.
Smile this week. Laugh because you can. Live like a valuable brand God made you to be. Go one, reinvent yourself and make lemonade.
We often carry with us baggage we collect along the way; baggage from our failed relationships, baggage from our hostile working conditions and some we find ourselves carrying unnecessarily. The burden of the baggage we carry daily presents itself in multiple ways, that in turn manifests in unimaginable ways.
I have carried baggage over the last few months, the kind of baggage that was starting to poison my soul. Baggage that blinded me of opportunities I could pursue. I carried baggage that weighed me down and made me doubt my potential. Not only was my potential undermined, but my worth too. I allowed the baggage I carried to dictate how people treated me. I allowed this baggage to define how I saw myself and value my potential. I allowed myself to be the victim, constantly seeking approval from those I deemed superior.
In moments of doubt, I would look to others for acknowledgement and depend on their interpretations of my situation because I thought they knew best; when in fact they didn't. I tried, many a time to express how I felt in hope that they would understand what I was going through, hoping to also prove to myself that I wasn't insane to feel what I felt. I allowed this baggage to manifest itself in my life for months, to destroy me inside and then allow myself to put on a mask, portraying a picture perfect life.
It was on Friday evening when God sent down my guardian angel to remind me that I was worth more than I imagined, to tell me my feelings were not unjustified. He sent down this angel clothed in normal clothes, with a beautiful smile and an understanding heart. She told me I was not mad to feel the way I did, she held my hand and told me to be the best person God intended me to be. She smiled and told me I was perfect in God's eyes.
I listened carefully and took note of the words this angel spoke. She had no wings or a halo like angels, but she carried a message that gave me hope. She delivered a message that allowed me to take another look in the mirror to see and understand my worth. It was at this point that I saw my potential unfold and my worth materialise; not because I'm arrogate, but because I started to believe in myself again.
There are many young people carrying baggage in there lives. We seek approval from our supervisors at work to validate our worth. We allow their perceptions of us dictate how we value ourselves. Some young people allow bitter relationships determine how their lives turn out, we fail to cut ties with people that poison our lives.
I have seen a lot of pain, frustration in the lives of young people and my own life. But I have learnt that God provides us with guardian angels that will remind us of our worth. We are all blessed with the opportunity of meeting someone that will hold our hands and reassure us it be okay. Take note, listen and reinvent yourself.
As a new week starts, I have made a conscious decision. I choose to let go of the baggage that poisoned my life. I choose to have self confidence, to value my worth and to pursue opportunities. Allowing other people's perceptions dictate my career or personal life ends now. I am a brand and I acknowledge myself as one. I encourage you to do the same, because you are worth more than you thought.
Smile this week. Laugh because you can. Live like a valuable brand God made you to be. Go one, reinvent yourself and make lemonade.
Thursday 20 June 2013
Happiness is a choice
The pursuit of happiness is increasingly becoming a challenge many of us struggle with. For some unknown reason, we have gradually shifted the responsibility of finding happiness to third parties, with the hope that they will fill the void that occupies our lives. We have become dependent on other people to make us happy; in some cases, we have gone to extremes in trying to get these people to bring us the happiness we so badly need. Many of us compromise so much in pursuit of this happiness;a few actually end up unhappier in the process as a direct result of the very people we count on to bring us happiness.
We continue shifting this responsibility to 3rd parties despite the disappointment. We continue to be victims of self pity, wallowing in our self created puddle of depression, hoping that our colleagues at work, our friends or members of the families will step in to help. Why we do this to ourselves is baffling.
I have been a victim of self pity recently. Although I felt my reasons were justified for walking around with my shoulders hanging and chin struggling against the forces of gravity, I knew there was a fundamental lessons I had to learn. Yes, I felt down for various reasons and I felt overwhelmed by the size of the problems presenting themselves in my life. As easy as it was to blame the problems that were bringing me misery on those responsible, it somehow felt unjustifiable to blame them for my unhappiness too.
But, you might argue that if someone is a problem in your life, then that very person is the source of your unhappiness. And while I might find common ground to agree with that, I learnt a different lesson and here it goes.
I encountered a number of problems at work and as much as I wanted to address these problems, I felt like each attempt failed. Worse, the people I knew were responsible for the problems (or the people to blame ) were not aware they were responsible for my unhappiness. Yes I made them aware but to no success. I spent weeks going to work unhappy, spending all day in a mood and eventually going back home unhappy. And the people I blamed for my unhappiness, lived their lives, laughed and went through the day in good spirits. It was at this point that I realized that I had a choice to make. It was either I continued going to work unhappy because I blamed other people for it, or to really reclaim my unhappiness and change that.
For the people I blamed, they felt it was enough to say sorry and move on, and they didn't care if I allowed that to influence my unhappy state too. I was so focused on the problems that I gave away my choice to be happy. I was so focused on blaming other people for what went wrong, I gave them power over my state of happiness (without them being aware).and worse, they couldn't be bothered.
Being happy is a state that we all individually create. We are responsible for our happiness and no one else. We cannot afford third parties the luxury of deciding what will make us happy or allow other people to take away our happiness as a result of foul play and problems they bring into our lives.
Let us do away with wallowing in our self pity and take responsibility. Happiness is yours to create, consume and enjoy. So be happy because you can, not because you depend on anyone to make you happy.
Smile. Laugh. Live
We continue shifting this responsibility to 3rd parties despite the disappointment. We continue to be victims of self pity, wallowing in our self created puddle of depression, hoping that our colleagues at work, our friends or members of the families will step in to help. Why we do this to ourselves is baffling.
I have been a victim of self pity recently. Although I felt my reasons were justified for walking around with my shoulders hanging and chin struggling against the forces of gravity, I knew there was a fundamental lessons I had to learn. Yes, I felt down for various reasons and I felt overwhelmed by the size of the problems presenting themselves in my life. As easy as it was to blame the problems that were bringing me misery on those responsible, it somehow felt unjustifiable to blame them for my unhappiness too.
But, you might argue that if someone is a problem in your life, then that very person is the source of your unhappiness. And while I might find common ground to agree with that, I learnt a different lesson and here it goes.
I encountered a number of problems at work and as much as I wanted to address these problems, I felt like each attempt failed. Worse, the people I knew were responsible for the problems (or the people to blame ) were not aware they were responsible for my unhappiness. Yes I made them aware but to no success. I spent weeks going to work unhappy, spending all day in a mood and eventually going back home unhappy. And the people I blamed for my unhappiness, lived their lives, laughed and went through the day in good spirits. It was at this point that I realized that I had a choice to make. It was either I continued going to work unhappy because I blamed other people for it, or to really reclaim my unhappiness and change that.
For the people I blamed, they felt it was enough to say sorry and move on, and they didn't care if I allowed that to influence my unhappy state too. I was so focused on the problems that I gave away my choice to be happy. I was so focused on blaming other people for what went wrong, I gave them power over my state of happiness (without them being aware).and worse, they couldn't be bothered.
Being happy is a state that we all individually create. We are responsible for our happiness and no one else. We cannot afford third parties the luxury of deciding what will make us happy or allow other people to take away our happiness as a result of foul play and problems they bring into our lives.
Let us do away with wallowing in our self pity and take responsibility. Happiness is yours to create, consume and enjoy. So be happy because you can, not because you depend on anyone to make you happy.
Smile. Laugh. Live
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